The Year in Review

Found this list from the year 2010, thought it would be a LAUGH people, or perhaps a huge cry, to write another one for this poor, sorry, year and then compare. First step is to extract the questions without reading too much of the last one's answers, wish me luck! 

1. What did you do in 2020 that you'd never done before?

Oh. My. God.

Zoom. One of the words of the year! With family, with friends, with GISH team members for tasks most of all - and only twice for work! When I gave Yuu the list of requirements to switch to online lessons she gave up and we took the month off and went back full time in May. lol. 

Also as of last night (Dec 6) I played a multi-player online game. Among Us. Those games have always intimidated me but I was a) very bored, b) it was a group of people I know, and c) a really easy game. It was a group of English teachers who live in this town.

But in general it wasn't so much things I hadn't *done* before as things I hadn't felt or experienced. The entire sensation of unprecedented things happening every day - losing work, shutdowns, border closures, trips canceled, Olympics postponed, etc, and worst of all - coping with this with three children in three different countries! 

(In wrote about it every day in a diary form, which I lost! I had the first few entries only, missing the introduction I later wrote summing up how it started, and missing the bulk of entries through April and into May, when we started the school up again. I had also gone back and added extra info from daily facebook posts and comments - trailing the course of the change from feeling like it was just a more serious flu, to being really afraid for my life. And the conflict innate in the differing speeds with which others reached these points - or didn't. I had half a mind to reconstruct at least this part of it, from messenger and facebook. BUT then I found it again! It was in yahoo mail - as a draft sent to Lena, and I found it when I was searching for posts about Homegrown, the music festival she was going to go to on her birthday, which was canceled and we were talking about the tickets and I was searching for the ticket email when I found it - because it had the word Homegrown in it! I am stoked - I really was heartbroken it had gone, and I searched and searched for it, even downloading a file search program. OF COURSE I saved a copy! I don't trust this computer one bit to not crash on me, of course I would have saved it. I don't think it has every update, but I know I stopped writing around mid-May when we went back to IP (in-person) classes things got kind of back to normal, or at least unprecedented, shocking things stopped happening!)

2. Did you keep your New Year's Resolutions, and will you make more for next year?

Of course not. And of course. And they will be the same as they are every year, and just like every year I will honestly and faithfully believe that this year WILL be different and I will succeed this time. 

3. Did anyone close to you give birth?

No, but I'm making up for the lack of babies with lots of doll play (Chuckette and Lolly; Yamenosuke; cleaning up the Bratz' hair). I felt sorry for people giving birth this year! (As of writing though, Ty and Fay's baby was born and Ken T had another baby)

4. Did anyone close to you die?

Yes, my Uncle John died in March, just before NZ's lockdown. His death precipitated a family debate about the advisability of attending the funeral, and if the funeral would even proceed, or if it would be limited to 10 family members only, as per then-under-discussion government guidelines. The funeral was shared on facebook, a first for me. Mum decided in the end not to go because of the Covid risk. 

AFWJ members Sandra Shoji and Suzette Bradford and Janice Hosking and Rebecca Madore, daughter of a member. I knew her mother through AFWJ and Rebecca helped me work out how to order with Printpac for the AFWJ Journal, and helped me with errors and working out what they wanted. She was only 42, and had been diagnosed with cancer only 9 days before she died. Shocking. I watched her funeral online too, streaming on YouTube. Not long after, much to my shock, Angela Saeki, also 42, suddenly died, leaving two small children. I know too many AFWJ members who have died. Here in Kyushu Oonagh, Diane, Tamah and Laura. And I suppose Dodo but she was in her 90s at least. Kris though I didn't know her well, and the Pride and Prejudice game lady whose name I forgot! I only met her once but it was memorable - chatting online about the game, then I coincidentally sat next to her at the Friday dinner. We played the game later, she won! Her death just before Christmas that year was the first AFWJ member I knew who died, and it was shocking, she was in her 50s. And just this week, Libby Iida. 

5. What countries did you visit?

I was in NZ for New Year, and briefly South Korea, the airport anyway. So at least I can write something in this space! My other trips were canceled! I was going to add two countries this year, China and the US. And I was going to return to NZ for Lena's graduation. All that was canceled by Covid of course. I was bitterly disappointed, but I'm okay now, I can see the light at the end of the tunnel, and I will get back to traveling again soon - might be going to Singapore in spring with Joanna, or if not, I really want to go to Europe in summer, and for my 50th!

6. What would you like to have in 2021 that you didn't have in 2020?

Kind of obvious answer, freedom in a Covid-free world and a vaccine of course! Really, is there anything else right now?

7. What date from 2020 will remain etched in your memory, and why? 

March 17, I think it was. This was the lowest in a series of lows, as lockdown began in NZ, schools closed in Japan, flights were canceled, and as a final blow, I lost my job. I seriously considered going back to NZ for the duration then, and almost kind of wish I had, although now I am appreciating being financially solvent. 

8. What was your biggest achievement of the year?

I don't know if I've achieved anything, it's been a year of hanging back, not moving forward. Getting the shed AND spare room AND clothes sorted I suppose! And not going crazy. 

9. What was your biggest failure?

Letting the cheese ideas fall back, once again failing to go independent and break away from those users who just use me (my bosses). And not losing weight, again!

10. Did you suffer illness or injury?

I survived the first year of the rona! Just a few ordinary colds. And the surgery of course, my first major surgery and 14 days in hospital, but there's a whole blog post about that! 

11. What was the best thing you bought?

My new car, although it wasn't me who bought it, it was Kanji. 

12. Whose behaviour merited celebration?

Jacinda. I don't think anyone on the planet would disagree

13. Whose behaviour made you appalled and depressed?

Guess. The orange menace. On a closer level, my so-called bosses.

14. Where did most of your money go?

For once, nowhere. I'm so used to spending it on travel, it took me a while to figure out what else you do with money. Champagne, good cheese, and a very merry Christmas! 

15. What did you get really really really excited about?

Seeing my big girls. Well at the start of the year I was really really really excited about going to the US finally, seeing Amy, and San Fransisco, and stopping off in China, and going to NZ again and seeing Lena's prom or graduation, and maybe even Europe, and Greece... sigh... all that was going to be. By the end of the year I was just excited about getting my darlings back in my sight and being thankful we were together, healthy, and weathering this storm fairly well! 

16. What song will always remind you of 2020?

Anything off Dua Lipa's Future Nostalgia, my album of the year. Levitating, Break my Heart, Physical, Don't Start Now, Good in Bed, Pretty Please. Finding, or not finding them at karaoke. Singing them loud and proud in the car. Love Again, Future Nostalgia, Hallucinate, Boys will be Boys, Cool. 

17. Compared to this time last year are you:

i. happier or sadder?

Sadder. Much, much sadder

ii. fatter or thinner?

Thinner, believe it or not. Not by much though.

iii. richer or poorer?

Richer, despite it all! Not having as much to spend ON certainly makes a difference. 

18. What do you wish you'd done more of?

Exercise and reading. Sorting photos and memorabilia.

19. What do you wish you'd done less of?

Bloody facebook and repetitive phone games!

20. How will you be spending Christmas?

With my family all together again! We went out for a lunch with friends, but spent the rest of the day with just us, including a wonderful - and very filling - turkey dinner. 

21. Did you fall in love this year?

With music again. With both big girls out of the house and Erica constantly on earphones, it's taken me a while, but I'm getting back into the groove of listening to what I want to listen to. Making playlists, discovering new favorites and dusting off old ones for a nostalgia hit and to see what's passed the test of time.

22. How many one-night-stands?

I'm still trying to find a way to 're-think' this one like I did with Q No. 21... All-nighters? Just one. Saw the dawn after Josh's farewell party. 

23. What was your favorite TV program?

Here's where I admit to joining the bandwagon and watching Tiger King. I enjoyed The Last Kingdom much more though, and Bridgerton I suppose. I also finally caught up with Stranger Things and fell in love with Korean drama Crashing Landing on You.

24. Do you hate anyone now that you didn't hate this time last year?

I can't think of anyone

25. What was the best book you read?

I can't remember so I'll go with the last book I read, I finally got around to reading the Bone People!

26. What was your greatest musical discovery?

Dua Lipa!

27. What did you want, and get?

The operation I suppose. And one other thing, that I know, and future me will too; a thing that hit a reset button and gave me a great deal of satisfaction, physically, mentally and emotionally. 

28. What did you want, and not get?

My trips!!!!

29. What were your favorite films this year?

I finally got around to watching Atonement, and it was wonderful

30. What did you do on your birthday, and how old were you?

Old enough. I went out for a lovely lunch to one of my favorite restaurants, right next door, Aya, with Kanji. Then I made myself a lovely cheese board with cheese - and a board - given to my by Amy, and ate it and drank bubbles while talking to Amy and Lena in a video chat, then ate a cake given to me by Kanji and Erica. 

31. What one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying?

Freedom and global health

32. How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2010?

"Where did my other pair of jeans go?". Plus my uniform: black pants, print tunic and teacher bun

33. What kept you sane?

Hope. It'll be over soon. Thinking about, and planning for, what I will do when it is.

And Netflix. After being TV-free for about a decade (I meant it in that 2011 post that I had not watched TV all year) it's nice once again to sink yourself effortlessly into some distant world. And, as always, hot baths, sleeping, talking it out with friends - and yeah the occasional piss-up

34. What celebrity/public figure did you fancy the most

Uhtred! See above re Netflix. I really did enjoy The Last Kingdom, and he seriously is a stunningly good-looking man

35. What political issue stirred you the most?

Oh boy. The World seemed about to end, so I actually voted, for the first time since I was 19. I guess that counts as 'stirred up'. But I focussed a lot more on the virus, race relations and the unbelievable things coming out of that creature's mouth

36. Who did you miss?

Every damn thing. My daughters at first, though I got them back. All my family in NZ, wine and bitch sessions with my friends, everyone I know in Japan - there are people nearby who I haven't seen for a year or more! And this winter, I just missed the entire soul of New Zealand, never have I ached more for the gentle NZ summer and lifestyle

37. Who was the best new person you met?

Did I meet anyone new? People, what are they? 

38. Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2020

Nothing is certain. 

39. What is something you changed your mind about in 2020?

Masks lol. Knowing. I am in a state of waiting for knowledge, I am not prepared to commit to any beliefs about the spread or prevention or best way to manage this, I think we will find out one day, and hopefully put some better plans in place for next time, but I'm actually content with not knowing yet, and especially not wanting to argue about it. For me, that is indeed a new feeling.

40. Quote that sums up your year

Unprecedented was certainly my word of the year! I'll have to think a bit more about a quote. 

The Questions, for future reference, or for stealing! 

1. What did you do in 2020 that you'd never done before?

2. Did you keep your New Year's Resolutions, and will you make more for next year?

3. Did anyone close to you give birth?

4. Did anyone close to you die?

5. What countries did you visit?

6. What would you like to have in 2021 that you didn't have in 2020?

7. What date from 2020 will remain etched in your memory, and why? 

8. What was your biggest achievement of the year?

9. What was your biggest failure?

10. Did you suffer illness or injury?

11. What was the best thing you bought?

12. Whose behaviour merited celebration?

13. Whose behaviour made you appalled and depressed?

14. Where did most of your money go?

15. What did you get really really really excited about?

16. What song will always remind you of 2020?

17. Compared to this time last year are you:

i. happier or sadder?

ii. fatter or thinner?

iii. richer or poorer?

18. What do you wish you'd done more of?

19. What do you wish you'd done less of?

20. How will you be spending Christmas?

21. Did you fall in love this year?

22. How many one-night-stands?

23. What was your favorite TV program?

24. Do you hate anyone now that you didn't hate this time last year?

25. What was the best book you read?

26. What was your greatest musical discovery?

27. What did you want, and get?

28. What did you want, and not get?

29. What were your favorite films this year?

30. What did you do on your birthday, and how old were you?

31. What one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying?

32. How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2010?

33. What kept you sane?

34. What celebrity/public figure did you fancy the most

35. What political issue stirred you the most?

36. Who did you miss?

37. Who was the best new person you met?

38. Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2020

39. What is something you changed your mind about in 2020?

40. Quote that sums up your year

Hospital

 Dec 3, 2020

It's done. Well it's been done for six days now, and healing up nicely. Taking longer and hurts more than I expected, but on the right track. 

At first, when I read the article on medium and went to the gynecologist, and he told me about the surgery and the surgeon, I felt I was being very proactive doing this, "don't put it off" "get yourself fixed" "don't let shame or embarrassment stop you getting fixed, don't live with the discomfort and problems, go for it". The thought of improvement in going to the toilet, and just, well, feeling more supported and "back to how it was" fueled me and I didn't even have any doubts or fears about negative consequences or side-effects. 

Then I mentioned mesh, that Victoria made the connection, and pointed me to the experience in the UK, where they have stopped trans-vaginal mesh insertion surgeries, actually stopped using mesh at all while it's being investigated, that I finally got scared, and when I started to look up what could happen, pain and mesh protruding through the vagina!! I had serious second thoughts then, backed up by the logistics. I made this list of pros and cons:

Pros

remember the daily toilet struggle (and travel issues and going to the toilet when out)

hemorrhoids and pain (linked to the strain of imcomplete elimination)

It might be how I initially imagined it - a quick fix!

It could be tighter, with no bulge of course and a better bum

time off!!! lol. 

Get it done now while I'm younger and can recover quicker

Cons

cost

schedule (Amy moving, work, Christmas coming up)

possible painful sex or limited positions

timing!!

It's not really that bad right now, I could try the other methods - lose weight, exercise, use enemas, put in a pessary. (linked across to Pros column: But why not just take the easy way out?

I'd add as well, another reason I thought was even with those things creating an improvement, it's just going to happen again. 

So, I finally decided to do it, and here I am! 

Routine

I got into a bit of a routine - wake up super early - I'm waking at around 5 and unable to get back to sleep, so I read or do things on the phone with the light off, waiting for the nurse to visit. Then the tea comes, about half an hour before breakfast at around 7:30. I am trying to not eat all the rice, for bowel purposes but it's hard to resist at breakfast. Then I lounge for a bit with no aim and when they have taken the breakfast tray I get up. I think it's nice to divide the night and day. I get dressed in day clothes - a bra (bought some new soft up ones), pants (elastic waist only of course), and my new pink sweater or a hoody, and set the bed up with the cover on it, the back all the way up so I can lean back a bit, easier on my stomach, and type easily on the computer which I have on the tray table. I can't fix the height of the tray table, so I adjusted the bed instead! 

Doctor's rounds are at 9, but usually earlier, I get the warning call at around 8:30. He's very quick - no problem? okay bye. After that a walk to the vending machine maybe, or if I have everything, I make a cup of tea. I eat exactly 2 almonds, 2 walnuts, and 4 dried apricots. I'm cycling through the Twinings Best 5 which now includes English Breakfast! Darjeeling, Earl Grey, Lady Grey and Prince of Wales, which I hadn't heard of before this set was on sale. 

Then onto one of my projects - I've been plugging away at things like cleaning up things on my phone - photos, Notes, Safari tabs. Doing some blogging like this. Or I might just send messages and play scrabble, or go on long facetime calls with Amy and/or Lena. Lunch comes at 11:30 and after that I continue the tasks, or read, or play games. I've only managed one nap so far - usually it's too uncomfortable. 3pm is Afternoon Tea. I eat one kiwifruit and one banana. I have afternoon tea over on the chair by the table. Gotta change the scenery! Before or after afternoon I might take another walk to the vending machine and throw away the bottles. Back to tasks. I try to vary which task I'm working on.

Towards evening, I change to Netflix and less mentally demanding tasks that I can do while semi-watching. I'm mostly watching Star Trek because I don't want to have to focus too much. Things like the photo organization and culling are going to take much, much longer than the time I have here. Dinner is a 6, and after lounging a bit, it's time to settle into the night. I shower, get my pyjamas on, and change the bed to nighttime configuration. Official lights-off is 9, it doesn't really matter than much for me because I have a private room, but I tend to turn it off anyway, and use the wall lamp over the bed. 

Day Nine, Friday December 4

Up at 5:30 for the blood test that determines whether I can go home tomorrow. I was already awake. Over in no time, but seemed to hurt more than usual, whether it was the dark and she wasn't very good I don't know, but at the time I was thinking, I am just SO sick of being stuck with needles! I got up and dressed into my check pants and the pink sweater. Doctor came just before 9, with the 2 residents, quick as usual, in and out, but then just after everyone left the room, the older nurse paused in the door and asked about my belly button. I had been reporting to them yesterday about the fluid collecting in my belly button. It was worse this morning, and I could see the hole at the top of the wound. I said yes it was the still there, and she called the doctor back. He took at look at it, said it was quite bad and started pushing around it, trying to press out the fluid I guess. A nurse came in with a treatment table and he swabbed it and then shoved some gauze into the hole! (There were 8 people in the room for this - doc, 2 residents, and 5 nurses! Meanwhile I hadn't had time to pause Netflix so Star Trek was it was playing in the background, making me think of weird alien anatomy episodes in the sick bay). And yes, it hurt. I was wincing, didn't cry out, and practicing all my jaw-and-shoulder relaxing, but mostly hoping it would just be over soon. It didn't hurt as much as it sounds like it would though. That was covered with gauze and taped down, it's a fragile arrangement though so I'm being careful moving. He also said this means I may not be able to go home tomorrow! So yeah I was pretty depressed after that. Blamed myself of course, for moving too much, for sleeping on my side, for being too fat. It's after lunch now and I'm settling into the afternoon, I'm also constipated today so I'll ask the nurse when one comes around for a suppository. Sigh. And another day. 

Doctor came, didn't even look at the wound, just said he would look at it in the morning and it was unlikely I would be out tomorrow. 

I finished tidying the tabs in Safari, and the March set of photos. Tomorrow my plan is to add to this, do April, and cull and organize the folders and albums before moving on. 

Day Ten, Saturday December 5

Sigh. Was supposed to be going home today. Resident dressed the wound, re-inserted gauze, so that's another day of limited motion for me. And another day with no shower. I am internally protesting by having a pyjama day. There really is nothing else to add. Day plan: continue to sort photos (finished tidying my karaoke list Note this morning), watch Dash and Lily for some Christmas cheer, do some more online shopping (golf gear for Kanji), update this!

Day Eleven (sheesh, really??), Sunday December 6

Doctor came around just before lunch, there is still fluid, he cleaned it out, and replaced the gauze so that's one more day. And still no bath since Friday night! My hair is suffering the most, since I hadn't washed it since Wednesday. But I had a towel bath this morning and got dressed into clean clothes so I feel not too dirty. I'm getting worried about work and will start work this afternoon on my schedule and work out when I will have classes and which can be Christmas lessons (ie, goof off) and that should help me feel less stressed. Still plugging away at 'tasks' - started up Spanish on Duolingo again, continuing work on the photos, if I get my schedule done I might start work on my Yahoo mailbox. I can't download anything though until I get my recovery software so I can find that Covid diary document! I'm still so upset I lost that. 

Day Fucking Twelve, can you believe it? Monday December 7

Doctor came, gauze out, antiseptic and a bandaid. And for that I have to stay another night? Well at least I got to a take a shower - a very loooong shower, I really didn't want to get out. Finally washed my hair, though I was going to wash it over the basin if they stopped me showering again today. K brought konyaku jellies and I'm having 2 after each meal, and slightly increasing snacks so I am better able to reject the rice. I eat the morning rice and maybe a little of the other meals' rice, if the side dishes need something to wash them down, but otherwise leave the whole bowl. Crackers and fruit and now cheese to keep me going. Cheese and anger. At least my schedule is lighter than I feared - the Tuesday online class dropped, and only 3 Ryukoku classes in total in December, so my first Thursday might be light - if I can remember which days I agreed to work! 

Unlucky 13

Well the bandaid is off. If I thought staying overnight to monitor a bandaid was overkill, how about staying overnight to monitor no bandaid? To be honest, there is still a hole, and I can see blood inside it. The sides look like they are healing that way - will I always have a second belly button now? Perhaps I should pierce it. And also to be perfectly perfectly honest... I don't mind that much. I know the house will not be tidy and the laundry will not be done, and I will feel pressure to do it. I AM looking forward to opening my amazon packages and checking out my Costco order but I'll have to be careful and take it slow. Then back to work on Thursday! I tried to get Erica to help me find my new OIT schedule but I think I'll have to call them and check, so at least I know and can start to plan. 

Edited Jan 11 to add that I was told on the 13th day that I could go home tomorrow, so I went home on Wednesday December 8th. I got Kanji to come and get me in the morning and I was ready by about 9 but he was busy at work and couldn't come for a few hours. Recovery went well, I had only the 4 Keio lessons on the Thursday. My worst moment was the Monday - I had OIT lessons in the morning but with the open door policy I got cold and just couldn't get warm. I came home and actually cried with the stress, and canceled the rest of my lessons. It's now been six weeks and I have no more pain, the scars are healing nicely, and bowel movement is more normal, but still not all okay, still working out how to use my new body I guess! 

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Backstory Begins Here

Day One, Thursday November 26

We arrived with my many bags, feeling like I was going away for months. Can't be that unusual though, as we were immediately offered a large shopping trolley to put them all in! I had one more blood test, then it was bye bye Kanji and upstairs I went! He couldn't even go up to help with the bags and say goodbye. He had instructions to come back at 12:45, when I would be entering the OR, and then he could leave again and come back at around 4 to see me once more before I was taken to recovery. Of course he would not be allowed in recovery. 

I was taken to a four-person room. They had said I might not be able to get a private room at first, so that was okay. I busied myself finding places to put all my things. Said hello to my roommates as they woke/entered. Two older ladies, no one in the bed opposite me. Lunch was awful, not a good start to the stay! Bread, but no butter, just some jam and I do not like bread and jam. And awful, tasteless tofu and ?daikon patty things. So depressing. I was glad I'd brought the sachet of chili sauce from Asiana airlines last year that Erica didn't eat, that had been in the fridge since then. Victoria suggested I bring tabasco sauce, but I couldn't find any. 

But just as lunch was being served, the nurses came back to tell me a private room was available, so I packed everything back up again, and moved to the other corridor. In the meantime I'd met my roomies and one had brought us all a can of zenzai. I had saved it for after lunch, but the nurse came in after lunch to tell me I would not be eating anything more that day, clear liquids were fine until midnight. Well, I wasn't that keen on the zenzai anyway... The not eating was easier than I expected. I just distracted myself, and with no access to food, except the fruit and nuts I'd brought, which were hidden in the fridge, and no need to prepare it for anyone else, I was able to forget about it, just not think much about it. I filled the bathtub and had a nice-ish bath (it got a bit cold and ran out of hot water), which I knew would be be last for a while. 

I was more worried about going all morning without food. It's one thing to sleep on an empty stomach, quite another to have to go another six hours in the morning. Why couldn't the surgery have been in the morning? 

Day Two, Friday November 27

During the morning I was changed into a yukata type robe with an over-robe, got more blood tests, got a drip put in at 9, and the surgical nurse came to take me through the procedure and recovery. I would spend an initial period of time in recovery before being taken back to my room. 

Before heading to surgery I had to remove the over-yukata, they passed the drip bag through the sleeve, which seemed rather awkward, and put on pressure socks and a cap. I walked with my drip, nurse beside me, through the corridor, past the nurses' station at the hub, past the TV corner and down the Tunnel of Light. I thought it was a rather inapt association... Kanji was waiting at the other end. I stopped, I thought he was coming with us for a pre-op consult, but that was it, just say Hi and off I go to the OR and he to the waiting area. 

Typical OR except for the booth and big machine, presumably the robot arms, but standard table. I climbed up, the staff were so careful of my modesty, only to immediatly remove my robe - I did have a large towel placed over my body first though. Blood pressure cuff, pulse ox monitor. Someone asked where I came from, and when I said NZ they said, Oh, where koalas are. I just laughed and said No, Kiwis. Eee? the fruit. No, a bird. Another nurse chimed in, yes the miniature ostriches and had a good laugh at that! Next came the epidural, and I had to curl inwards to get my spine showing. I was careful to stay very still but it really didn't hurt much. I remember the anesthesiologist popping his head over to say hi at one point. He explained what he was going to do, what the drugs would do. Then the mask came down - but not touching my face. I don't know why, I don't mind it touching my face. He told me to breathe deeper and deeper and eventually the edges of the room started to darken, the voices fade...

Woke up to people calling my name, telling me it was all over. Gotta love general anesthesia. Literally took 2 seconds in my head. So I was awake, but very drowsy, they told me the time but I couldn't make sense of it - 6:30? It was meant to finish at 4, so that just confused me. There were Kanji and Erica and I managed to say Hi Sweeties as the bed rolled past, not sure if they could even hear me. I was aware of where I was and where I was going, and I was rolled into the recovery room. I was not comfortable. 

I had an oxygen mask, a blood pressure cuff, a drip, a pulse/ox, the epidural, a catheter, and blood clot massage machines on my lower legs. The catheter bothered me the most at first, I just felt a constant My right leg was numb but felt restless and like it had been placed on pillows, elevated. This bothered me the whole time. But I was pretty stoned so I just told myself stories in my head, amazing, interesting stories that reeled out like movies and that quickly got me back to sleep. The blood pressure cuff kept waking me but I learned to use the leg massagers as a kind of kinetic white noise, just waiting for, then feeling them - left leg, then right. It was the only thing relieving the restlessness in that leg. I was asked if I was in pain, and given more through the pump when I said yes. 

While the initial plan was for me to back in my room Friday night, because the surgery had gone on longer, and it was late (plus the longer you're under the longer it takes to recover). So I stayed there overnight and was brought back to my room in the morning. 

Day Three, Saturday November 28

The leg machine and epidural were removed but I kept the other things. They talked about taking the bed but decided to use a wheelchair. Someone found my slippers somewhere. I warned them about my numb leg - I'd been complaining to several nurses about it - and indeed I was unable to stand on it, but I was ready for that and had most of my weight on my arms. Memories of all the folks in wheelchairs I've taken care of, memories of their wobbles, so similar to mine that day. One step to the wheelchair, one to the bed, that's all the walking I did that day!

Back in my room, settled and as comfortable as I could get for now, I finally asked for my phone. I had thought about it several times but just couldn't be bothered! Just tried to relax my body and get back to sleep. I had a bunch of messages of course and it was good to finally catch up. I was allowed to eat finally - a single jelly for lunch, and some tea. I watched TV as it was easier than trying to set up my computer and Wifi. Dinner surprised me as I thought it was just going to okayu only, but I got side dishes too. I did not eat all the rice but did my best with the other dishes and especially enjoyed the soup, wonton soup, and the main dish, karaage. I don't think I had a shower this day... 

Day Four, Sunday November 29

Coming back to life. I wanted to know two things - when could I go home, and when would I get the catheter out. I had stayed in bed Saturday, thinking I was supposed to, not wanted to upset the catheter, or the bandaging on my tummy. But when the resident said I would get the catheter out on Monday, I thought that was in response to me saying I still had a lot of pain and wasn't moving much. I thought I was being punished for not moving much, even though I hadn't been told to move. So move I did, just up and down the room, every half hour or hour or so. I was also constipated so had a suppository. The main thing was learning to move with the catheter, and bandages, and pain. How to lie, how to sit up etc. It took quite a bit of effort. I managed to have a shower that night too. All the while I was hoping I could talk the surgeon into taking the damn catheter out early, it's uncomfortable, painful, and makes it hard to move around.

Days Five to Six, Monday-Tuesday, November 30 to 31

I hit my low this day. My intention to ask the doctor to take out the catheter fell to nothing. Day 5 is standard, it's written on a chart at my head, they were not going to move from that. I was sorely disappointed though, facing two more full days of it. I cried and hit a low - all my carefully laid plans to do tasks went out the window, and I messaged as many people as were online right then. I ended up having a nice chat with Fay, and we planned a New Year karaoke party! Lizzie and Maree answered and the usuals - family and friends. I was kept busy all morning answering messages, it was a good idea. 

Tuesday was basically the same day, minus the depressing low!

Day Seven, Wednesday December 1

Catheter out! I had a huge pimple on the lip, probably from chafing, and what seemed to be a cut or graze near the bottom - the first discovered in the toilet, as it bled a bit, the second in the shower as the water stung it. I did mention these, but just got told not to touch the area. Hello, I have to go the toilet and shower! I was a bit annoyed at that. I was also annoyed at one nurse calling my 'masshiro' (pure white) skin "weak". My skin is not weak. And it certainly isn't weak because it's white! If I'm itchy, it's because I'm healing/reacting to tape adhesive/reacting to anesthesia itself, or WORSE a sign on internal inflammation, don't just ignore all that 'because white skin is weak' Grrrr. I'm also discouraged by the lack of counseling. While I was happy at first with the extensive amount of preparatory paperwork and surgical disclaimers, and the pre-op nurse consult, there hasn't been much apart from single sentences said almost as an aside by nurses. I would like a fully detailed analysis of what is expected, a timeline, and possible pitfalls. I was particularly annoyed that no one had asked how my bowels were, given that that was a major reason for the surgery. But the surgeon finally asked this morning - only for me to say I don't know, since I still constipated!